At some point we have all found ourselves looking at people who surround us, trying to see who’s still standing un-wavered and who in retrospect has let us down. We realize it is often people who we paid the least attention to, those we gave the least importance and those we were harshest with who remain standing solemnly next to us. It’s as if they have sworn to be there by oath, like their own survival depended on them being right there next to us.
We are told we live in a world where its survival of the fittest. We have sunk to a level where we are willing to hurt others and deprive them of happiness so that we are happier; even if just relatively. Rather than building relationships for the betterment of ourselves through providing for and learning from others, we are insist on prying off one another.
Having given it some thought, I came to realize that in order to have healthy relationships that last we must have open and forgiving hearts. We must truly work to build those bonds of trust and possess the willingness to commit; that means we aren’t going to “see” if it works out rather it means we want it to work out. It means we will do everything in our will-power to keep the relationship moving forward; with an open and forgiving heart.
An open and forgiving heart is what allows us to see beyond the day to day little things that engulf our mind and bodies into tiredness. An open and forgiving heart is what allows the dust to settle and the calm to instill our minds because it’s no longer a struggle of egos trying to overpower one another. An open and forgiving heart is what allows us to realize that when we leave this world we leave with so very little, it’s best to carry the baggage that counts.
An open and forgiving heart allows us to love and care not for the selfishness of wanting the same love and care back, but for something much greater. We love and care with our hearts because it’s part of our human nature. Whilst we do get hurt walking vulnerably around with open hearts, it doesn’t mean we should ever stop.
You see we were never opening up our hearts for them, it was never about them. It was always about us and Him. For He, God, shows us the most affectionate forgiveness and unconditional love. Perfection is He, so we idolize Him. We as humans are always striving to be perfect, unconsciously striving to bring ourselves closer to Him. In this natural strive for perfection there also comes the natural need to be affectionate and forgiving.
So as we love, investing our care and concern in others, with our open and forgiving hearts let us do so with no hesitancy. Let us do it because we are human, because we carry moral values and because we realize to be kind with other people opens doors of greater goodness.